K is for Kiah, and Kakorrhaphiophobia

The world is different today. Today, us queers can marry in any state of the union. We have a long way to go in terms of ending discrimination against all LGBTQ individuals, ensuring that our trans and non-binary siblings can live happily and safely, and addressing many of the problems of intersectionality within and outside of our community. But it’s a far cry from what life was like for us 60 years ago–clandestine bars, coded messages, scandals and arrests, constant shame and secrecy, and a deep, seeping sense of misery.

But even then, there was happiness. Friendships forged, soul mates found, and lives lived to the fullest. There was love and camp and culture and fun, even as a queer in the 1950s. One of the most unique and persistent expressions of culture to emerge out of seedy bars and decades of closeted oppression was that of Butch-Femme–a play of…

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